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via ANKWD - Welcome to the gateway of Citizen Journalism! by divya on 9/21/08
The most common reason why people hesitate in communicating effectively with other people is their fear of making a fool of themselves in front of other people. People tend to shy away from interaction to avoid being ridiculed at. What such people don’t realize is that the other person is just like them. He might have the same apprehensions as them. He might have the same amount of limited knowledge on a subject as they have. Instead of retiring into the cocoon of anonymity, if we muster some confidence to voice our opinions and thoughts, we might be able to make an impactful impression on others.
Another reason why people avoid interactions is to avoid conflict. What they don’t realize is that conflict is the exact learning experience they need to provide the growth, knowledge and confidence for dealing with people in the first place. Conflict management or managing the conflict of ideas and thoughts between two or more people can be an incredible learning experience for everyone involved; so much information is revealed in these intense periods that if we can learn to keep our integrity intact during these short bursts of emotion; common ground can be quickly found.
Be assertive when you are dealing with others. Being assertive means that you can stand up for yourself, express yourself effectively and prevent others from taking advantage of you. Being assertive helps boost self-confidence and may help you win respect from others. It can also help control stress and anger. All this helps in communicating with others in a better way as it elevates you to a stronger and esteemed pedestal. When you get positive vibes from others, you tend to be in better control of your thoughts and actions.
Don’t be afraid to take risks and voice your opinions. Tell others what you feel about a situation or a thing exactly the way you feel about it. Honesty is always appreciated by everyone. People respect a person who has the courage to stand up for what he feels and doesn’t hesitate to stand for his convictions.
Always be prepared in advance. If you have enough knowledge on the matter to be addressed, it automatically pumps a lot of confidence in you. That confidence is then well exhibited in the way you communicate with other people.
Dealing with people effectively is a skill that can be learnt and developed over time. If you feel nervous or shaky about doing this, you need to feel the fear and do it anyway, if it’s on your mind, the time will come when you will have to act, go in, do it with the expectation you are going to get it all wrong, but it is never as bad as you think it is going to be. So just close your eyes, take a long breadth, and clam down all anxieties you have before approaching another person. Present yourself in a confident and assertive way and you are sure to win the battle.